Recognize the grump
Domestic Psychology:
Only one partner can be crazy at a time.
I know I don't have a great track record here, but I think she's right. In my (short) marriage, I always found that if it was her turn to be crazy, I could be sane and, in turn, get her to return to sanity.
But I never got a turn. Whenever I went loony, she took that as a cue to go loony, too.
I really think that in every relationship, both halves of the couple need to learn to recognize when it's the other person's turn. It's the only way to make it work. If you notice I'm being a big grump, you should recognize the grump and try to alleviate it instead of reacting.
Dontcha think?
Only one partner can be crazy at a time.
I know I don't have a great track record here, but I think she's right. In my (short) marriage, I always found that if it was her turn to be crazy, I could be sane and, in turn, get her to return to sanity.
But I never got a turn. Whenever I went loony, she took that as a cue to go loony, too.
I really think that in every relationship, both halves of the couple need to learn to recognize when it's the other person's turn. It's the only way to make it work. If you notice I'm being a big grump, you should recognize the grump and try to alleviate it instead of reacting.
Dontcha think?
posted by jon at 1:48 PM
4 Comments:
Yeah, that's the best rhythm to achieve. I was in a relationship once in which I was not allowed to have a bad day or ask for any sympathy. It always turned into a one-upmanship thing. Always having to be the guardian of the gates of sanity gets tiresome.
My husband and I are pretty good at taking up the slack for the other when the going gets rough. Darned nice dynamic.
Oh yeah, I meant to say welcome back to the world of blogging! What's going on with Knoxblab, are they hanging it up?
You mean KnoxBlogs? I'm not sure what happened to it. Supposedly it's coming back some day.
And thanks for the welcome back. :-)
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I should only pose questions containing the prefix Knox when
I haven't had anything to drink.
I was in a relationship once in which I was not allowed to have a bad day or ask for any sympathy. It always turned into a one-upmanship thing.
I, too, was in a relationship like this. I always had to be the "together" one. I (and the relationship) finally fell apart under the weight of my efforts and constantly holding us both together.
Now I want to be able to be weepy and whiny occasionally. Maybe a little irrational now and again and not have it held against me.
;-)
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